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Let the dead bury the dead, Jesus said!

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Oh dear !! No thanks.

Suddenly I’m wondering if I prefer to be a cadaver instead.

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The issue of DV is a huge one, its a silent issue and when we talk about "violence" against women people only see the physical side of DV, and the worst case scenarios that make the news.

Often times it is the very silent abuse done behind closed doors by narcistic controlling weak men who wish to destroy beautiful strong women - the emotional, sexual, or financial abuse of women, which doesn't stop after women leave if they have children.

What is even worse is that often men in the church hide behind their Christianity to show the community how good and godly they are but they destroy and debase their women in private. This is far worse than any can imagine, having lived through it myself (and still suffering after leaving 9 years ago with continued abuse via the kids) and knowing several other women in my own small church having experienced this it is frightening!

These men are often not what you imagine, they are successful, confident and very well liked, they are certainly wolves in sheep's clothing.

What is also unknown / under reported is the number of women who take their own lives due to the intense abuse they suffer, seeing no other way out - I know because the was my other option, I just couldn't leave my kids behind to find me like that, but I watch them suffer now and wonder if their lives would have been better without me or if I had stayed, but I know God has plan and I am here for them and I will fight to protect them to my last breath!

These men deserve the punishment they are due when they face the fires of hell!

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Yet my Dr (GP ) Who I have known for about 30 years tells me that between 30 and 40 %of DV incidents have been initiated by the woman involved . Frequently resulting in hospitalisation and some times death to the man involved.

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It is also true that women can perpetrate DV and men can be victims, no denying it.

That why I dislike the media calling it gendered violence, but in many cases and especially historically speaking it is the women who are worse off in these situations.

Men who commit abuse are far more likely to bounce back and move to tehri next victim quickly leaving a trail of destruction behind them, women as victims struggle to move on and will never fully allow herself to trust another man again. This can also be said for the reverse scenario in many cases. And then yo have cases of horrible women who take kids away from non-abusive fathers (like a friend of mine had happen to him) and paint them as monsters just so they can get child support and play the system because the system is often biased towards women.

I'm definitely not saying DV is cut and dry in any way, each case is delicately nuanced and each case needs to be treated independently, no amount of virtue signaling or government policy or tokenism will ever be the solution to ending it.

From my experience, and from reading and hearing stories over many years, it is torturous and devastating regardless of who is at fault. Healing from these scars is somewhat impossible for some of us - much like PTSD suffered by soldiers post War service.

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The heart of the problem in all these issues is the problem of the heart.

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Although further to the above. I am amazed at the amount of work attached to having a graveyard in your church. Making out lanes and locations and the amount of people who instead of joining us for church at our weekly afternoon services in our traditional old building wander around the graveyard or if they go they disappear into the graveyard to ‘talk’ to the person buried. They could come and have tea delicious afternoon tea and fellowship with the living.

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Two things anybody dying is sad for those left. But the indignity and outrage against violence against depends very much on what culture the perpetrators come from. Mostly the activists match and rail against white men , not men from other cultures.

Then death- yes we mourn our loved ones but I cannot see the point in taking up acres of ground with coffins and graves or storing ashes in a columbarium. My parents ashes are the sea where my Dad particularly loved to be. They have no memorials except in our hearts and what they left behind. When we die we are no more and we go to be with Jesus or not depleting whether we have a relaying with Him. So what happens to our bodies is entirely up to us or our families. So do you think James bodies should not be donated to science? Cardboard coffins are quite popular as is not embalming the dead. I have never believed in embalming. In the end it all ashes to ashes, dust to dust.

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Having a father who was a funeral director and living in a funeral home, I developed a macabre sense of humour. My father had so many relatives in his wardrobe. They were in ashes boxes of course. I always thought it funny that he carried the rellies around wherever we went, until one day they disappeared. He put them in the garden. He must have dug quite a big hole and they were all in there together! I won't elaborate about my mad mother, but she also had things in her wardrobe in the shape of heads made out of material that she chopped up and stuffed with dried fruit and other odd things! I always thought of my family as the Addams family!

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Sounds like never a dull moment in your house.

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It was a bit like that way back when. Both parents are gone now and my husband and I have been married 56 years this year with lots of great grandchildren!

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That’s great. I think I would like my ashes to feed my garden.

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Why wait till we are dead? We can have older people who are no longer seen as useful contributors to society being induced to sign a legally binding contract to end their lives in return for a free bag to hold their remains in the warehouse. Old people need extra heating and cooling which despoils the atmosphere and suck on the government purse if they are on a pension.

Nursing homes can be turned into accommodation for our new migrants. A new slogan "Out with the old and in with the young"

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Dont go giving the godless bastards ideas David or it may be compulsory once you reach pension age .

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In that case I would have been composted some years ago.

In the movie "Logan's Run", once the citizens in the domed city reached 30, they were 'promoted' to be turned into food for the younger ones. However, that fact was kept secret and the living never knew what they were so sumptuously feeding on.

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Went through second try

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Too late Bob. I’m already there

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Yes I reached my use by date a decade ago ,

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Isn’t that what euthanasia is? A way of decreasing us baby boomers, the homeless, the disabled, the frail and ill and the mentally ill. The morons have spent the money put aside for us in the past.

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All above will be convinced that they ( we ) are doing the planet a great service. They might even put up a plaque outside a chicken farm commemorating all those who contributed to the welfare of the worms in the soil on that farm.

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And why not? That’s what we return to whatever we do.

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Quite honestly, I'd rather be remembered for the contributions I made here on earth and the differences I made in people's lives while I was still alive, rather than being remembered as a pile of dirt.

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👍

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Is there no areas of life (now death) and normal living as it used to be, or traditions which aren’t the target for change by this new breed of humans who think like deranged scientists?

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According to the Greens, when we as humans are alive, we are a parasite or a cancer on the environment, but when we are dead, we are a nutritious fertiliser for the environment.

How wonderful to know that, according to the Greens, we as humans now have a purpose in life - to be dead! And how reassuring to know that though they hate us while we live, they will love us once we're dead!

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Apt description by the greens of themselves parasites and a cancer on the community .

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Absolutely!!

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I wonder how they classify themselves?

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Ghouls?

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It would seem to me that they are atheists who have no fear of God, what-so-ever. Their goal in life is to be rich, powerful and merry. They wouldn't care less if someone used them as compost in a worm farm because they believe nothing exists apart from our life on earth. They believe that there is no life after death on earth, so they have divorced themselves from any sense of morals or principles, in favour of living it up entirely for selfish gain, while they may.

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I am reeling before the infernal depravity of these Greens.

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